Body positivity is a bit of a garbage phrase really isn’t it? It’s one of those buzz words, a bit like “self-care” or “positive mindset”, that sound really nice when you’re trying to sell books or products- but really it doesn’t mean a huge amount.
I like the concept of this word- the idea of embracing your body for what it is, for being kind to yourself and for a healthy relationship with food and exercise. However, that doesn’t stop me doing an internal groan every time I read it on someone else’s blog or see it in a video.
Right, before you bite my head off- hear me out!
The thing that I find frustrating about “body positivity” is that most people are going to swing both ways with it. It’s the kind of phrase that demands you to feel cheerful and strong and happy and confident all of the time. I’ve read so many things about “how to embrace your body” and to me, if I claim to be a body positive blogger, I feel like I’m expected to always portray that side of me and never express the internal struggles I’ve often had with my own figure.
Having recovered from a 6 year fight with an eating disorder and literally living in 2017 as a young woman- there are often days that I feel bombarded by feelings of being “too fat” or that I would look better if I could just lose half a stone or so… that doesn’t make me “negative” about my body- it makes me a human being.
I consider myself a person like any other. Some days I will feel absolutely A+ in how I look and my confidence will rocket. Other days- like today, my brain gremlins will march out and remind me of all the reasons that I’m wrong.
I’m all for the concept of body positive thinking, but I don’t want to feel like I fail at it every-time that I have to fight the thoughts that have been rammed down my throat my entire life…