I’m a tad bit of a cynic when it comes to self-help books or “life improvement” systems.
Sure- I’m totally obsessed with the idea of perfecting and fine-tuning my own life, but I’ve never found anything particularly helpful about these books that has really stuck with me.
However- I picked up “The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck” by Mark Manson on a total whim.
I mean, anything that has the word “fuck” in the title is going to be right up my street. Here’s what I thought:
Firstly, there ain’t nothing subtle about the way that this book is written. It obviously crude, its littered to the brim with swear words, brutal honesty and if you really take the time to listen to what he has to say- this man is fucking onto something.
“Giving too many fucks is bad for your mental health.”
I mean- preach this dude! If you give a fuck about other people, what other people think of you- or worry and overthink too much of your life, then you’re just going to be in a permanent state of anxiety.
Mark basically writes this in such a “no holds barred” fashion. It’s reinforcing the things we already know, but it a lighthearted and humorous way.
He also takes a good hard look at the way that we consume social media- something that I’ve been reevaluating in my own life:
“Hey look my life is cooler than yours”
“If you feel like shit then you’re bombarded with images of people totally happy and having amazing fucking lives”
He really hits the nail on the head with this one. Comparison is the thief of joy- and watching someone else live “a perfect life” through a phone screen is never going to make you happy.
I felt like this book empowered me to actually, give no fucks about anyone else- and was far more refreshing than most of the self-help you get nowadays.
That’s why I’m trying my hardest to avoid social media brags and avoid wishing death on all those who got Taylor Swift tickets when I didn’t. (Totally joking.. *shifty eyes*)
In all seriousness, I feel like he makes so many valid points that really give you some food for thought:
“The key to a good life is giving a fuck about what is true and immediate and important”
After reading this, I actually took a look at my own life and the things that truly hold any importance to me.
Not everyone can have the perfect family, children, financial situation, two-holidays a year and a satisfying and fulfilling job- that also saves the planet.
Manson is basically a modern day philosopher to me. Although he isn’t saying anything revolutionary that I didn’t already know, ultimately , this book is very funny- and although I don’t think it’s going to change my life in any drastic way- I think its well worth a read, to fill you with a new found lease of “not giving a fuck-ness”.